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Being liked is overrated. Wanting to be liked means tempering your thoughts as to not offend. Wanting to be liked means not arguing vociferously with a female peer - something that could improve and add to your ideas - for fear that they’ll be insulted or that they won’t want to be friends. Wanting to be liked means agonizing over every negative comment in an online thread, even if they’re coming from people you don’t care about and don’t think much of.

Wanting to be liked means being a supporting character in your own life, using the cues of the actors around you to determine your next line rather than your own script. It means that your self-worth will always be tied to what someone else thinks about you, forever out of your control.

And truly, living in a constant state of self-deprecation is no way to be. Humbleness does not protect you from sexism - it just makes the slights harder to see.

From my latest at The Nation, “She Who Dies With the Most ‘Likes’ Wins?” (via jessicavalenti)

Excellent piece.

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Individuals don’t behave in a vacuum - everything about us takes shape in relation to social contexts larger than ourselves. As such, our perceptions, thoughts, feelings, and behavior are neither self-contained nor simply “out there” in society. Rather, they emerge through and reflect our participation in patriarchal society. If we ignore this, then we perpetuate the status quo by focusing on the individual manifestations of social forces while ignoring the social forces themselves. And that is one reason why an individualistic approach serves patriarchal and other status quo interests so well.
Allan G. Johnson (via wretchedoftheearth)

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You cannot love everyone; it is ridiculous to think you can. If you love everyone and everything you lose your natural powers of selection and wind up being a pretty poor judge of character and quality. If anything is used too freely it loses its true meaning. Therefore, the Satanist believes you should love strongly and completely those who deserve your love, but never turn the other cheek to your enemy!

Anton LaVey (via cutefuck)

I’m not a Satanist, but the more I learn about it, the more I feel like I can relate to it.

(via brain-trauma)

The tenets behind Satanism are very appealing: Strong individualism, rebellion, adversion to rules or specific roles placed on people, etc. However, the veneration of an imaginary being, whether a Jesus or Satan, is completely silly and nonsensical, and unnecessary to believing in individualism. I do know that not all forms of Satanism do worship Satan, but it must be said that a lot do, meaning they actually believe in Christianity which I find rather ironic and funny.

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